Michelle Branch
One of the best artists.
I hope she’s happy now, because she was the soundtrack to my life when I was fat, bullied and had no self-confidence.
When are we going to say out loud that the problem with bullying in our schools isn’t going to go away because America, itself, is a bully—whether nationally or internationally; because Americans, en large, believe bullying is normal and natural; because Americans, mainly, think bullying is an effective gender policing/sexual orientation policing tool? When are we going to keep that shit real?
—Son of Baldwin (via sonofbaldwin)
(via black-culture)
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Boyfriend
Today my date asked me why I want a boyfriend.
At first, I stuttered.. I was a bit taken for surprise and decided to really think about the question and answer as honestly as possible.
And then, perhaps the most amazing thing happened—a lightbulb went off and I responded quite simply:
“Because it’s time”
It’s time to share my life
It’s time to love
It’s time to rely, depend and have someone else reply and depend
At 21, It’s time for a boyfriend
Going on a date tomorrow
Women don’t usually talk about this..
Maybe I should say that women around this age (18-24.. i’m 21) don’t usually talk about this but, I’m doing on a date tomorrow and I need a body shaper.
Yes a girdle, corset, whatever I want to wear a dress that skims over my body without showing my lovehandles.
So today I bought a friggin $20 body shaper that does absolutely nothing and I want to punch a wall. Does anyone know of any good brands that will suck everything in and show my size without showing my rolls!?!
Please help!
And if you help, I’ll show you a picture of my outfit for tomorrow..
I doubt that’s really any incentive
Edges
So I had a dream a couple of nights ago that speaks to something that has never been a huge insecurity of mine; my hair.
In my dream I took the weave out of my hair, gave myself a little perm touch up and when it came time to style my hair, I had no edges.
Now I’m scared to take out my hair.
You Gotta Be
Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears
Stand up and be counted
Don’t be ashamed to cry
You gotta be
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
Herald what your mother said
Readin’ the books your father read
Try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time
Some may have more cash than you
Others take a different view
My oh my heh, hey
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
Don’t ask no questions, it goes on without you
Leaving you behind if you can’t stand the pace
The world keeps on spinning
You can’t stop it, if you try to
This time it’s danger staring you in the face
Oh oh oh Remember
Listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears
My oh my heh, hey, hey
You gotta be
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
I don’t usually have girl crushes but…
… I must admit Trey Songz has an eye for beautiful women.
He never gets caught slippin with a mediocre girl in his videos.
Round of applause for my man please.
Thank you.
(Source: blowkissesnotboys, via thecraftysmoke)
Religion is good for good people, and bad for bad people”
That is the best thing I have heard since 2012 started
—some guy on facebook
(Source: afro-art-chick, via darkskinnedblackbeauty)
Luxurious Hearses by Uwem Akpan
Literature is amazing, and literacy is beautiful.
I have always considered myself to be a Nigerian. Both of my parents were born and raised in Benue State, Nigeria and we are of the Idomaland. Now, since my subject area of expertise is Political Science I am well aware of the state of disrepair that Nigeria has found itself in. ReadingLuxurious Hearsesby Uwem Akpan almost makes me cry (I’m not big on emotions, so that ‘almost’ should not be taken lightly).
The short story is told from a 16-year-olds point of view. It is additionally interesting because the boy is MIXED.
The term MIXED is ambiguous. Relative only to the context in which it is told/recieved. This boy Jubril (Gabriel) is MIXED because his mother is a Hausa-Fulani Muslim from Northern Nigeria and his father is a Ibo Delta State Catholic from Southern Nigeria.
What I find interesting about the term MIXED is that it seems to me to be a way for the non-whites, non-blacks, non-pure (even though pure is just as usless as the word mixed) population to find a place.
In the book Jubril never really finds a place by being MIXED. He finds a place by pretending; by being ‘convinced’. I wonder if that will ever go away
Being Black
Now I am the type of person that loves knowledge. and appreciates change. I also occasionally get obsessed with a certain piece of knowledge and begin to “spread the gospel” almost like a Jehovah’s Witness.
What’s my newest piece of knowledge? African American women not getting married.
I have yet to check the stats for the phenomenon as it pertains to African-Canadian women but the numbers for African-American women is so astonishing that I am assuming that the same is happening north of the border.
70% of African-American Women are not married and;
42% of African-American Women will never get married
As a traditionalist. This poses a problem. Actually scratch that, I’m not a traditionalist, I’m more of a hybrid-traditionalist. I will not have children before marriage, and I look forward to a traditional family (mom, dad, kids that belong to the same mom and dad).
But the stats do not work in my favour as black women with Advanced Degrees (J.D., M.A., LL.B, M.D., Ph.D) are even LESS LIKELY to get married.
Why is this?
Some say “because black women have attitude”
Some say “because black women are loyal to black men and dont date outside their race”
Some say “because black women have unrealistic standards”
I say “because men of other races are less likely to approach black women than women of any other race”
This may indeed be because of the 3 reasons I listed above, or may be because they can’t bring home a black female to their mother; regardless of how many degrees she has or how many figures she racks in annually.
That’s my take. Comment if you have an opinion on this.
